When choosing the life you love doesn’t mean loving your life This is the inaugural post of my new newsletter, Unresolving. Subscribe for free for regular updates! Recently, a friend told me she was proud of me “for choosing the life I love.” It was admittedly very kind, but it couldn’t have felt further from the truth. What she meant was…

As Twitter goes down in flames, the newsletter platform is quietly stealing its most valuable writers…and features. — In the past week I’ve gotten an email form Substack at least five times a day informing me that someone I follow on Twitter is now publishing on Substack. As we gear up for a mass exodus of Twitter users— although we probably should have left by now, so maybe…

My identity is tied up in my singleness, my childlessness, and I’m not sure I want to let that go. — “If I were to have kids,” I tell my therapist, “I would feel like I’m betraying my tribe.” I laugh as I say it, aware of how ridiculous it sounds. She stares back at me from my dirt-speckled screen, a familiar face I have yet to meet in person. What…

It is said, ad infinitum, that women apologize too much. I’ve spent a non-trivial amount of time wondering what “too much” means, when I regularly wish the men in my life would apologize more. While women are said to apologize more than necessary, men’s defenses are often impenetrable. …

The policies of the most dominant social media network are stifling — and even worse for women — When I started my company, advertising on Facebook was never the plan. As a solo, female founder, and a longtime women-in-tech advocate, I wanted to build a company that operated with feminist values. …

Emily Smith and Scott Muska talk modern relationship challenges, gender differences, and writing about dating. — We often read stories about dating on Medium, but rarely do we get a real conversation between people with two very distinct perspectives. Emily Smith and Scott Muska met through Medium, and write regularly about dating and relationships. …

My sustained lack of motivation has forced me to question what that motivation was made of in the first place — There are no unknowns when I step out of bed. I will enjoy my first sip of coffee. I will comb through emails I don’t care about. I will refresh Twitter too many times. I’ll plan to go for a run. I won’t. I’ll work as much as I can…

But according to the men I know, the feeling’s not universal — An ex of mine, who I’ll call Matt, recently admitted that if he were to meet someone with a life as established as his own — someone extremely committed to her job, who owned a house, and felt rooted in her community — it wouldn’t work, no matter how compatible…

No profile can convey what you’ll learn in the first few minutes of a date. Which is why we created Dating Roulette. — I started online dating ten years ago in my late-twenties, so my dating life is split, almost exactly, between pre and post online dating. When I first started online dating, swiping wasn’t a thing. …